How to Be a More Positive Person: A Spiritual Healer’s Guide

People come to me all the time asking how to think more positively, as if positivity were a switch they could flip if only someone handed them the right instructions. After twenty five years of sitting with clients through the hardest seasons of their lives, I can tell you it is not a switch. It is closer to clearing a path that has become overgrown, and the tools for clearing it are part mindset and part energy work, because the two are far more connected than most people realize.

When I talk about positive thinking, I am not talking about pretending everything is fine when it is not. I have never believed in forcing a smile over real pain. What I mean by positive thinking is training yourself to notice where your attention keeps going, and gently redirecting it toward what is actually within your control. Most of the suffering I see in my clients does not come from their circumstances. It comes from the story they keep repeating to themselves about those circumstances, on a loop, often for years.

I have also learned, after this many years of readings, that positivity is not something you can think your way into if your energy field is working against you. That is why I always tell clients this is not a purely mental exercise. Your body and your field carry the residue of every doubt, every disappointment, and every fear you have not fully processed, and no amount of positive self talk will move that residue on its own. It has to be released.

Faith is not passive, it is a practice

I ask nearly every client the same question early on. Do you trust that this will work out for you? Not in a hopeful, crossed fingers way, but in a settled way, the way you trust that the sun will rise tomorrow. Most people hesitate. That hesitation is usually the real block, more than any curse or crossed energy I might find during a reading.

Faith, in the way I use the word, is not about religion specifically, though for many of my clients it is tied to their relationship with God or with a higher power they trust. It is about believing that you are not carrying this alone. In my own family’s tradition, going back eight centuries now, healers were taught that doubt itself has a weight, and that weight sits in the body the same way stress or grief does. When I do an aura reading and find a client’s field dimmed or contracted, doubt is very often at the root of it, not misfortune.

If you want to build this kind of faith, start small. Trust yourself with one decision a day rather than trying to overhaul your whole outlook overnight. Confidence is built the same way muscle is, through repetition, not through willpower alone. I often tell clients to pick one small commitment each morning, something as simple as trusting that a difficult conversation will go better than expected, and to notice how it actually unfolds. Over weeks, that noticing becomes evidence, and evidence is what faith is built on.

Gratitude changes what your energy attracts

I tell clients that gratitude is not a nice idea, it is a technical practice with a real effect on your energy field. When you focus on what you already have, you shift your vibration toward abundance rather than lack, and that shift is not just a mindset trick, I have watched it show up in readings as a literal brightening of someone’s field over a matter of weeks.

You do not need an elaborate ritual for this. Naming three things you are grateful for before bed, out loud or in a journal, is enough to start. What matters is consistency, not elaborateness. I have had clients who kept this practice for even a single month report noticeable shifts in how situations resolved for them, not because gratitude is magic, but because it retrains where your attention and your energy go first.

One thing I remind clients often is that gratitude works best when it is specific rather than general. Being thankful for your health in the abstract does far less than being thankful for one particular moment, a conversation, a meal, a quiet morning, because specificity forces your mind to actually relive the feeling rather than skim past it.

Trusting something larger than yourself

There is a kind of relief that comes from accepting you do not have to control every outcome. I know this can feel frightening, especially if you have spent years believing that vigilance is what keeps bad things from happening. But hypervigilance has an energetic cost. It keeps your system in a state that blocks the very things you are hoping to attract.

Letting go does not mean giving up responsibility for your choices. It means releasing the exhausting belief that you personally have to engineer every good outcome through sheer force of worry. When clients come to me carrying that kind of weight, much of our work together is simply teaching their nervous system, and their energy field, that it is safe to loosen that grip.

I have seen this play out again and again with clients who arrive convinced that if they just worry hard enough about every possible outcome, they can prevent the bad ones. It never works that way. What actually shifts things is releasing that grip long enough for your energy to settle, which in turn makes room for better outcomes to actually reach you.

Working toward your goals without letting fear run the show

Positive thinking does not replace effort. I want to be clear about that, because I have had clients misunderstand this point and wonder why simply thinking positively did not change their circumstances. Effort still matters enormously. What changes is the emotional fuel behind that effort. Working from a place of fear produces a very different result than working from a place of quiet confidence, even when the actions look identical from the outside.

When setbacks happen, and they will, the difference between someone who recovers quickly and someone who spirals usually comes down to whether they interpret the setback as proof they are failing, or as one step in a longer process. I encourage clients to treat setbacks as information rather than verdicts. A setback tells you something needs adjusting. It does not tell you the whole path is wrong.

Simple energetic practices you can start today

Beyond faith and gratitude, there are a few small practices I give to almost every client who wants to build a more positive outlook. The first is simply spending a few minutes each morning in quiet, before checking your phone, before letting the day’s demands in. Even five minutes of stillness resets your field before the noise of the day starts pulling at it.

The second is speaking to yourself the way you would speak to someone you love. Most people would never say to a friend the things they say to themselves in moments of frustration, yet they let that harsh inner voice run unchecked for years. Catching that voice and softening it, even slightly, has more impact on your energy than people expect.

The third is being mindful of whose energy you are absorbing. If you spend most of your time around people who are anxious, critical, or draining, it becomes far harder to hold onto your own positivity no matter how much inner work you do. Protecting your energy sometimes means limiting exposure to what depletes it, and I have watched clients make more progress from this one boundary than from months of other work.

Checking for what is actually blocking you

Sometimes what looks like a mindset problem is actually an energetic one. I have worked with clients who did everything right on paper, gratitude practice, faith, consistent effort, and still felt stuck. In many of those cases, what I find during a reading is a blockage somewhere in the aura or the chakras, often tied to an old relationship, a lingering resentment, or in some cases something external that was directed at them.

This is why I always tell people that mindset work and energy work are not separate paths, they are the same path approached from two directions. If you have been doing the inner work and still feel like you are pushing against a wall, it may be worth having your energy field examined rather than assuming you are simply not trying hard enough.

How your chakras affect your ability to stay positive

In my readings, I see the same three chakras come up again and again when a client is struggling to hold onto a positive outlook. The root chakra governs your basic sense of safety, and when it is weak or blocked, everything I have described about faith becomes almost impossible, because your nervous system is stuck in a state of alert rather than trust. The solar plexus governs your personal power and confidence, and when it is depleted, positive thinking tends to feel forced rather than genuine, since there is no real belief underneath it. The heart chakra governs your capacity for gratitude and connection, and when it is closed off, even a consistent gratitude practice can feel hollow, because the feeling behind the words is not fully available.

This is part of why some clients do everything right on the surface, journaling, affirmations, faith practices, and still feel like they are pushing a boulder uphill. The mindset techniques are sound, but if the underlying chakra is blocked, the techniques are working against resistance rather than with an open system. Clearing that blockage first often makes every other practice in this article land the way it is supposed to. If you want to understand your own chakras in more depth, including the signs that one may be blocked or overactive, I go into detail in my article on what it means when your chakras are misaligned.

When to bring in outside support

There is no shame in needing help to work through what is blocking you. I have spent my career working remotely with clients around the world precisely because so many people carry these burdens alone for far too long before reaching out. Whether that support comes from a therapist, a trusted friend, or a healer trained in this kind of work, the point is the same, you were never meant to carry this by yourself.

If you would like a personal reading to understand what may be holding your own energy back, you can book a session with me directly here, and I will walk you through what I find and what we can do about it together.

Frequently Asked Questions

How long does it take to become a more positive person?
There is no fixed timeline, since it depends on how deep the underlying blocks are, but most of my clients notice a shift in their outlook within a few weeks of consistent practice, and a more lasting change within a few months.

Can negative energy really prevent positive thinking?
Yes. In my experience, a blocked or heavy energy field makes it far harder to sustain positive thoughts, no matter how much effort someone puts in, because the mindset work is fighting against a body and field that are stuck in a defensive state.

Do I need to be religious for this to work?
No. Faith in this context is about trust, whether that trust is placed in God, in the universe, or simply in your own capacity to handle what comes. The practice works regardless of specific religious belief.

What is the fastest way to start shifting my mindset?
Start with a daily gratitude practice and pay attention to when doubt creeps into your decisions. Those two habits alone create real momentum faster than most people expect.

How do I know if I need an energy reading instead of just working on my mindset?
If you have been doing genuine inner work, consistently, for weeks or months, and still feel stuck in the same patterns, that is usually a sign something deeper may be involved, and worth having examined.

For more on how energy healing supports this work, you can read my article on what aura healing is and why it matters, or if you suspect something more specific is at play, my piece on why bad luck keeps repeating in someone’s life. You can also see what other clients have experienced working through this with me.